Why do most women let themselves go and start looking fat or wear ugly clothes or stop wearing make-up after ?

they get married?


I realize if the man is an idiot perhaps he has it coming to him. On the other hand he maybe acting like an idiot because the women has lost he desire to try and maintain the beauty that first attracted himWhy do most women let themselves go and start looking fat or wear ugly clothes or stop wearing make-up after ?
The same reason men doWhy do most women let themselves go and start looking fat or wear ugly clothes or stop wearing make-up after ?
Not all women do, I had a great grandmother who wore makeup to the day she died. Some girls (and I have friends who do this) wear makeup, dressed up nice to get the males and onces they got him they stopped. However their are girls who love makeup and it has nothing to do with males it is for ourselves and will most likely keep wearing it.
Well, as a married woman who has not let herself go, thank you very much, I don't completely understand it. My friend has been married 2 years and already has put on like 50 pounds and only gets dressed once a month. I think its similar to the man theory of I've married her she's stuck with me, so he no longer has to buy flowers or treat her like a queen. Therefore she no longer needs to look and act like a queen.





I think it's good to be comfortable with your husband/wife, but not to the point that the physical attraction goes.
Not all of us ';let ourselves go'; some guys don't realize that we don't always wear make up and dress to the 9's and are in for a big surprise when they live with a woman. when dating my husband he never farted or burped around me, I moved in and it changed why would that be...oh maybe because now I'm around him pretty much 24 hours a day and I'm going to see the not so pretty side! I think he's not going to see the so pretty side of me either. Get with reality bud or you will be a very sad and lonely guy.
well i dont do that stuff well one thing is because it that im not married yet and well idk if ill get married and put on make-up i hate make up! i know what kind of girl im i? well im a girl that likes baggy cothes and i dont want to keep care of well make-up, dressing up all pretty and most of all ur married ur husand will know that u look pretty already and so what if people think about ur skin or not!!!
I dont look beautifull for guys.


I do it for myself.





If i got married


I would expect the guy to love me no matter what i look like, i mean i would'nt marry an ugly guy but if he started to get lazy and unnatractive i would shape him up and make him look better. Not divorce/break up with him.








I WOULDNT ever stop wearing make up or let myself get fat. EWWW gross the thought of it makes me sick. How could somebody do that to there body





I Can understand if there depressed but if they arent then they need to get it together!!!
More likely they are unhappy in life. It may or may not have to do with the marriage itself. Plus they get more comfortable, you think hey I got him or her what do I need to try so hard for anymore. lol. I gained weight in my previous marriage to hide my pain because my husband became an alcoholic. But there are also other reasons to gain weight and not care about your appearance as you once did. Depression to name one. Don't worry about all the small stuff. Marry a girl because she makes you happy. If looks is all that makes you happy then my friend you are not going to stay happy. Trust me.
Why do men go fat and bald and stop taking showers and cleaning their teeth and changing their underwear BEFORE they get married and they are in a relationship for a while?...You know women want to be loved for them not fortheir bodies and if thats all men can see them for then whats the point in trying...
not only women get big, so do men.





Then women have a baby then they feel ugly with the big belly anyway. Then they stay at home with the baby and the whole life changes.





They do not go to work they are at home and all they do there is bake and cook and eat





I think that scheme works for some women at least
what about the guy!? woman are not the only ones who do this. many men let them selves go, stop shaving, gain weight, etc. it all has to do with how they feel. if they are comfortable why does it matter what they look like? i doubt that the man fell in love with the woman because of her looks and not her personality. if she still has the same personality why does it matter if shes a few pounds heavier?
cuz when they get older its harder 2 stay skinny and if they were pregnant even more so stress builds up that makes it harder and if the guy married her he shud love her which means he shudnt care if she gets ugly if he cares than he shudnt have married her and guys get fat and ugly 2 its cuz they are married they dont have 2 try and impress nybody cuz they kno (or thik) that their spouse loves them 4 who they r
because theyre married...their husband shouldn't judge them for it. theyve only got one person to impress most of the time. most of the time girls wear makeup or dress pretty is to impress guys. but married woman dont have to anymore. plus when you have kids its hard to make time for yourself.
i'm young and not getting maried for like 10 years, bu maybe becuase there is no competition anymore, he is hers till death do us part..... also maybe just becuase she feel comfortable around him and knows he likes her for who she is not what she looks like -- ever think of that?
You are not suppose to marry over looks. A girl/woman ';lets'; themselves go because the guy is suppose to love them for who they are not what they look like. If you are only attracted to her because of the way she looks you should not be marrying her.
two things:





many women are very superficial with the goal of getting a guy. after that goal is complete, they lost interest in trying.





another possibility is losing the ';spark'; after marriage. lack of excitement leads to lack of motivation to look awesome.
Hmm, I really like that someone brought this up. It's so prevalent in current marriages.





I believe that both the man, and the women should hold themselves to high standards as far as fitness, appearance, and health goes.
They want to relax for one without being worried of what the man thinks.


You use harsh words to describe women. Maybe you need to realize that usually when a man marries a woman, he's doing it because he loves her, not because of her looks.
becuase they relize life is over. They get fat becuase they get pregnant. Not every body can look like a celebrity after they have kids. They don't have 100,000 to get a personal trainer. Sorry that your wife cant conform to all the celebrities.
With all the pressures and stress of work, kids, married life, for most women it is just really very hard to maintain the body and looks.
woman are generally lazy,thats why men have invented everything,walked on the moon,and become President. All a woman has to do is lay there.woman are so lazy,they dont even go to the bathroom standing up.
Not all women do that. But really once you get married you don't have to look nice all the time. Their spouse will see them everyday. So putting on make-up, and that other stuff daily would become a drag.
because they think that oh now im good and secure


or maybe they're tired of trying to get a guy before marriage and noticed how hard it is.


or maybe they think how love is blind and there's nothing to worry about.
well sometimes girls have no time to do that stuff


they have to take care of the kids,or cook food


you know people change once they get older


their not always gona always wear short shorts and stuff


imagee if their reallyy old wearing those stuff lol
Probably same reason men get beer belly's, start balding, burping/farting, have no shame and act like pigs after few yrs of marriage??
Women probably don't feel they need to impress their man after they are married. But, Men do the same thing. They stop trying to impress their women as well.
well its problay becuz well i guess some think that there man loves them for who they are which they man SHOULD!!!....well if i get married im not letting myself go lol im going to stay beautiful no matter what so i can be cofident lol
Because they know their husband loves them and they don't need to try and look good for them or any other man, and it is way less time consuming!
they think they don't have to maintain themselves because they already have a man but really they do. it makes me sick to be honest.
i know women who are forbidden to wear makeup, nail polish or to even shave thier legs after they marry.


the guy thinks as long as shes so ugly, no one will steal her.
well i think thst even know u got married u should still look nice that is how i was always brought up!!


they married u looking one way and they want u to still look that way
well I wouldn't If you marry a guy because you love him then why wouldn't you stay hott and fit for him?





Depends on if the women isn't getting the attention from her man too I guess